Today is Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day. This day holds a special place in my heart because my "work" is a big part of who I am and I am very proud that my children know this. But as someone who works in a home office, I sit here all alone.
I've said before that "I'm Chandler" - my friends don't have any idea what I do for a living. And it really doesn't matter. My job isn't interesting to the layperson. However, it's a job I like. A job at which I'm currently in my second run. I'm ever so grateful to have a job in this challenging economy as I know so many other moms who want to work, but can't find it. I'm fortunate.
Remember the "woo" picture? I've added it here. You know, since I took it for work and I never do a blog post without a picture.
But back to my point, something that I've never written about: Why I choose to have a career and be a mom at the same time.
The answer: Because NOT having a career just never occurred to me.
After I started having kids, I was actually VERY surprised at how many of my friends, some with advanced degrees, were opting to become stay-at-home moms. I certainly didn't have any issue with that. It was their choice and probably a really great one. But thinking back, I guess it was just never in my plan to do it myself. I hated college, but I worked my butt off to get the hell out of there with a degree. It never occurred to me that there would be a time when I'd be in a position where I questioned whether or not I'd be using it...not that I'm using my PR degree now, mind you.
I can't remember even one conversation I had with my husband in those early days when I was pregnant with Ryan deciding what our work plans would be. They just were. And yes, we DID want (but also pretty much need) the two incomes. It was a no-brainer. However, for me there was never that wish that I could stay home. Twelve weeks of maternity leave went by (very slowly I might add) and I was back at work. And that's what it was.
I found amazing childcare in the form of Miss Cherie, an angel on Earth who had my kids over the span of 7 years while we cycled them off to preschool. The job that I returned to after having Ryan was crappy, but I loved the one I returned to after Nat and Justin. So why not?
Right now, Ryan is with JakeRyan at his office, a big new shiny building where they have organized activities for the employee's kids. I'm at home working like every other day. Just me in my home office, wearing jeans and talking on the phone with customers. I wish one of the kids could sit by me and hear me sell my wears. I'd bore the hell out of them in 5 minutes, thus starting them on their career path to be sure that they have an interesting job like a doctor or astronaut or meth dealer. Anything not to have to sit in the office/playroom with a headset (held together with a binder clip) and talk about...whatever. I do love talking about whatever.